Male vs. Female Puppies: Myths, Real Differences, and How to Choose for Your Family

One of the most common questions families ask when preparing to bring home their new puppy is: “Should I get a male or a female?” It’s a great question—and one worth exploring.

The truth is, both make wonderful companions. There’s no “better” choice overall, only what fits your family and lifestyle best. At Happy Top Doodles, our goal is to guide you through this decision with clarity and confidence, so let’s walk through the similarities, differences, and real-life scenarios that might make one sex the right fit for you.

Similarities You Can Count On

No matter which you choose, you can rest assured that both males and females share many of the same wonderful qualities.

• Temperament is the biggest factor A puppy’s temperament is shaped primarily by genetics, early socialization, and consistent training—not just whether they’re a boy or girl. Both males and females can grow into affectionate, confident, and well-mannered companions.

• Trainability Doodles, whether male or female, are highly intelligent and eager to please. With positive reinforcement, consistency, and patience, both sexes excel in training. The key is matching your training style and pace with your pup’s personality.

• Exercise and activity needs Both males and females thrive when they receive daily exercise and mental stimulation. Walks, playtime, and interactive toys are essential for all puppies, regardless of sex.

• Family bond Whether male or female, your puppy will form a strong bond with you and your family. Their love and devotion don’t depend on gender.

Key Differences Between Males and Females

While similarities outweigh differences, there are a few areas where males and females can vary slightly:

• Size Males are often a little larger and heavier than females of the same breed. In Doodle varieties, this usually means just a few pounds difference, but it’s worth considering if size is a factor in your home.

• Maturity rate Females tend to mature mentally a bit faster. This can translate into earlier focus during training and settling into routines more quickly. Males tend to keep their playful, puppy-like behavior longer—which some families adore and others may find a bit challenging.

• Affection style While every dog is an individual, many families notice a difference in how males and females express affection. Males are often described as more openly affectionate—sometimes called “velcro dogs”—because they want to be right by your side. Females may be just as loving but often display affection on their own terms, with a touch more independence.

• Territorial or marking behavior Intact males can be more prone to marking or showing protective tendencies. Spaying or neutering usually reduces these behaviors in both sexes.

Scenarios Where One May Be a Better Fit

Still not sure which direction to go? Here are some real-life situations where one sex may be the smoother match:

• First-time dog owners A female may feel like an easier fit since she might mature a little faster, helping her settle into training and routines more quickly.

• Families with young children A male’s playful, goofy personality often makes him a perfect match for energetic kids who want a fun-loving buddy to romp with.

• Multi-dog households If you already have a dog, opposite-sex pairings often blend together a bit more easily. Same-sex households can also work beautifully, but they may require a little extra patience and guidance—especially with two males, who can sometimes be more competitive. With thoughtful introductions, consistent training, and a watchful eye in the early days, many families enjoy wonderful harmony no matter the pairing.

• Looking for a calmer companion Families who want a dog that’s slightly more independent or less likely to demand constant attention may prefer a female.

• Looking for a snuggle partner If you want a constant companion—one who always wants to be near you—a male may be the best fit. Their “velcro dog” tendencies often make them ideal cuddle buddies.

Final Thoughts: Temperament Matters Most

When it comes to choosing between a male or female puppy, there truly isn’t a right or wrong answer—both can make wonderful companions. What matters most is temperament: selecting a puppy whose personality, energy, and needs align with your family’s lifestyle. 

At Happy Top Doodles, we look beyond gender and focus on matching each puppy to the right home, ensuring a bond that feels natural and lasting. With the right fit, gender quickly fades into the background, and what shines through is the joy of welcoming a loyal, loving companion into your family. Our role is to guide you through that journey with confidence and excitement, so you feel fully prepared to bring your new puppy home.